Is it just me or are American girls typically not that interested in Asian men

personally, interracial relationships are hot. haha, that sounded creepy, but i think so. that probably comes from my being attracted to mainly asians, black guys and some white guys, but i think that the world is so stereotypical in their views of who you can and can't date. white+white, black+black, asian+asian. it's all so stupid.

and i can understand your frustration when you feel that it's hard for an asian guy to find a white (or whatever color you prefer, haha) girl, because i know how stupid it is when you're "looked down upon" for even mentioning how you think so-and-so is cute when they're of another race/color. the whole world is just MAD! haha.

and i agree with someone's previous post (i'm sorry, i forgot your name! D: ) when they said that asian guys typically hang out with other asians and date asian girls. i've seen it, and it's more than a bit intimidating when you see an asian guy you like, but he's surrounded by all of his, coincidentally, asian friends.

eh, i dunno what i'm trying to say anymore, haha. but i guess my point would be is that it seems just as hard when asian guys don't seem that interested in american women. D:

I suppose it really depends on what city and state you are in and what the generally impression of Asian men are like in that area. I've lived in Texas for a good chunk of my life and it's not all of Texas that American women don't want Asian men, it's usually in the more conservative areas. If you go to Austin, Houston or possibly San Antonio, I don't think it should be too hard to hook up with an American woman. Where I lived though, there weren't many Asians in generally and the generally stereotype about us wasn't that great either. My sister's still live in the area and due to the stereotypes, they too don't even like Asian men and would never consider dating them. I suppose that too is due to my father pretty much fitting the stereotype of being very traditional, controlling and etc. Your best bet is to be more confident. American women from what I can tell, just want a confident guy to walk up and talk to them. Ignore the negative stereotypes that our race can bring us and show them what you are really like.

i actually thought asian men didn't like north american women especially african-descent women i'm glad 2 kno i'm wrong

They need to start approaching man its hard to get one to even look at me half the time ..

Adonis wrote:

Mo-mo chan, you are in south korea? We need more non-asian girls like you back in the states!!! What Joe said was true, most of the female members here are in Europe. and the guys that pass you by, the reason they don't look at you or approach you is because they don't think they have a chance.

depends on where you go and who you ask. from what ive seen it differs from state to state.
it could be lack of interest and it could be the fact that american women traditionally like to be chased. its already hard to tell if a girl is interested at all (in real life) because we've been taught to play nonchalant untill he makes the first move so if you decided she doesnt like you before even meeting her youve pretty much doomed yourself.

i think it's typical of any race to not be interested in another. a lot of what we are interested in is based on what we grow up with. your exposure to life as you grow up will usually dictate your taste in the opposite sex.

if you're white and you've been around mostly asians all your life then you'll more than likely be attracted to asians. if you've barely been around or seen asians, then you'll more than likely not be attracted to them. i'll exclude the universal "pretty" ones in each race as those will be liked by the general.

I've had 3 past inter~racial relationships and I do have to admit 2 of the 3 were really due to interest in Asian culture. Otherwise whenever I talk to someone whose white, spanish or black, it isn't harder. I have hit a wall, mostly with white women, where i've been told they have no interest in asian guys. Not an assumption, its been told to my face and on several occasions I'd rather forget, thank you lol...

But having said that, I do believe you have to approach someone to know where it'll go. But I have to say, I get tired of hearing female friends talking about how they think the hottest guys are those you see in the Abercrombie & Finch (sp) catalog. But I do know statistically speaking, when it comes to marriage, Asian men have the lowest interracial marriage percentage among all groups. Whether its environment, confidence, culture, etc, the statistics do say as far as marriage go, its the lowest probability and while it may be a stretch, we can say it might be a similar situation in dating too.

You are right but "typically" is the key word here. Typically means its not all, so go out and find the exceptions to the typicality .

delsr515 wrote:

I've had 3 past inter~racial relationships and I do have to admit 2 of the 3 were really due to interest in Asian culture. Otherwise whenever I talk to someone whose white, spanish or black, it isn't harder. I have hit a wall, mostly with white women, where i've been told they have no interest in asian guys. Not an assumption, its been told to my face and on several occasions I'd rather forget, thank you lol...

But having said that, I do believe you have to approach someone to know where it'll go. But I have to say, I get tired of hearing female friends talking about how they think the hottest guys are those you see in the Abercrombie & Finch (sp) catalog. But I do know statistically speaking, when it comes to marriage, Asian men have the lowest interracial marriage percentage among all groups. Whether its environment, confidence, culture, etc, the statistics do say as far as marriage go, its the lowest probability and while it may be a stretch, we can say it might be a similar situation in dating too.

I don't think it has anything to do with race.

sure there is an element of "i'll never date those smelly asians" racist types. but they are rare to find.

there are plenty of white/black guys who feels the same way. they can't get a date, no matter what.

I learned my lesson early. when I was in high school, I was nerdy fob straight from Korea, not able to speak english, shy and couldn't look at girls right in the eye.

I was sitting behind these two cute white girls. they were talking about a guy. how they thought he was SOOO cute. high school crush stuff. Like I was a tree stump. right behind them.

the guy they were talking about was this 4/5th generation chinese boy. the most popular boy in school.

I realized early then. what I need to do to attract women, and it had nothing to do with being asian.

It's about being an Alpha Male. You have to be the MAN, no matter what the society tells you. Stand up straight, be intelligent, insightful, charming, and say what's on your mind, in a loud clear voice, while never forgetting to treat women like how they would want to be treated. Be a gentleman.

and no matter what. PLEASE don't embarass other asians by being a jerk/moron/idiot.

read up on being an alpha male. if you are into that kinda thing. I never was one.

The more accurate question for this thread is probably: Is it just me or are Americans typically not that interested in non-American culture? The macho, George W. Bush gunslinging pop culture of the US is very different from the way most Asian-Americans were raised. Asian-American upbringings tend to stress humility and hard work, which are not "cool" in America, at least not until the age of financial independence. As many others on this site have suggested, there is a stigma towards "non-American" ways of life, whether it be Hispanic, Russian, French, Muslim, etc.

In America, I'd guess that the majority of non-Asian + Asian relationships happen under two situations: 1) the Asian in the relationship is very Americanized or 2) the non-Asian in the relationship actively rejects American popular culture on several levels.

Even in the US, there are probably a minority of interracial relationships which take place outside of these two categories, but less frequently than in other non-Asian countries.