Is it just me or are American girls typically not that interested in Asian men

This is something I figured out. It's strange but, I think interest begets interest. Like karma. Girls show interest if you show interest. It gets them all flustery??

At least in the US, I find non-asian women are flattered when they're checked out and you make solid eye-contact. My female friends tell me girls love getting checked out.

Before I never oogled or made eye-contact because I was shy and I thought it'd make women uncomfortable. Now I get lots of smiles back. It's really like night and day..

If you do it in good positive way, and smile, it's flattering. I think usually people feel good when they get compliments. Just think how much effort women make to look good - in the US there's all this pressure. Just imagine that karma will eventually return from that special someone. it only takes one

I'm still little afraid when paying compliments to start random convo though. But I reckon if you make good friendly eye contact, and a solid smile you can say almost anything...Takes practice and courage though... e.g. I was retarded once and said to this girl "I think your dress is really funky......." She said WHYTHANK YOU... "Is it hard walking in it? She said naw it's not so bad." and she was super cute and glaze eyed. What did I do to deserve that? I didn't do much except locked eyes for a few seconds and smiled to show interest.

bpmfdtnl wrote:
I think most of the ones that have approached in the past have been so traumatized that they'll never do so again!

But if you're going to get traumatized over a little rejection you'll never get anywhere, especially grown up matters like a relationship.
Do some chicks act like idiots and mock/scoff/whatever at innocent individuals who mean well? Well, yeah, but that happens with Asians, Hispanics, Germans, men, and women alike.

Must be you. Cause this american girl loves the asians

Good advice here. I used to think that it was rude to check out women too. I would quickly glance away to "pretend" I was taking notice of something else. haha.

BreakWild wrote:

This is something I figured out. It's strange but, I think interest begets interest. Like karma. Girls show interest if you show interest. It gets them all flustery??

At least in the US, I find non-asian women are flattered when they're checked out and you make solid eye-contact. My female friends tell me girls love getting checked out.

Before I never oogled or made eye-contact because I was shy and I thought it'd make women uncomfortable. Now I get lots of smiles back. It's really like night and day..

If you do it in good positive way, and smile, it's flattering. I think usually people feel good when they get compliments. Just think how much effort women make to look good - in the US there's all this pressure. Just imagine that karma will eventually return from that special someone. it only takes one

I'm still little afraid when paying compliments to start random convo though. But I reckon if you make good friendly eye contact, and a solid smile you can say almost anything...Takes practice and courage though... e.g. I was retarded once and said to this girl "I think your dress is really funky......." She said WHYTHANK YOU... "Is it hard walking in it? She said naw it's not so bad." and she was super cute and glaze eyed. What did I do to deserve that? I didn't do much except locked eyes for a few seconds and smiled to show interest.

This is like a 2 edged sword. Most people are fearful of rejection and we call this being shy when it comes to grabbing someone's attention we want to flirt/get to know better.

However, not everyone wants to be bothered with the compliments, especially attractive females - they get it all the time. There's not a pick up line or compliment they haven't heard before. They may already be involved in a relationship or are not looking. But hey...it doesn't hurt to give eye contact and give compliments, nothing to lose other than rejectance which you must learn to cope with sooner or later as you can't make everyone happy.

This is the problem:

Megabitch is the minority... Unless youre 12. Most girls who aren't interested will say thanks, give you that " im only being polite please don't follow me" smile and walk away without looking back. Or say thanks and pretend to be busy on the phone if she does that with her side or back to you without looking up she's not interested. If she just plays with it for a while facing you then puts it away then keep talking.

I know more girls who are open to dating Asian guys than not. Very few activaly seek out Asian guys or exclusively date them but will give them a chance. Girls like men who are confident and take initiatives. If you don't show any initiative, they aren't going to hand themselves over on a silver platter. As far as rejection goes, people get rejected regardless of race. Even the best pickup artists out there get rejected. They call it a learning experience. With practice, you get better at approaching women.

delsr515 wrote:

I've had 3 past inter~racial relationships and I do have to admit 2 of the 3 were really due to interest in Asian culture. Otherwise whenever I talk to someone whose white, spanish or black, it isn't harder. I have hit a wall, mostly with white women, where i've been told they have no interest in asian guys. Not an assumption, its been told to my face and on several occasions I'd rather forget, thank you lol...

But having said that, I do believe you have to approach someone to know where it'll go. But I have to say, I get tired of hearing female friends talking about how they think the hottest guys are those you see in the Abercrombie & Finch (sp) catalog. But I do know statistically speaking, when it comes to marriage, Asian men have the lowest interracial marriage percentage among all groups. Whether its environment, confidence, culture, etc, the statistics do say as far as marriage go, its the lowest probability and while it may be a stretch, we can say it might be a similar situation in dating too.

This is the time to change all that! If you like non asian women, just go for them, don't worry about rejection. Use this site as a reminder that there ARE non asian women out there who are interested in asian men and want to marry them. Just go out and think that all women like asians lol. If one was to say "no" to your face then move on to the next one.

AsianPersua5ion wrote:

This is the time to change all that! If you like non asian women, just go for them, don't worry about rejection. Use this site as a reminder that there ARE non asian women out there who are interested in asian men and want to marry them. Just go out and think that all women like asians lol. If one was to say "no" to your face then move on to the next one.

ok not to rain on your parade, but a pinch of reality time?

it's true that "western" (not just american, europeans as well) women are not typically interested in asian men. (and hooray for all those who are - like on this site) but the reality is they are drilled by the society to be REPELLED by the asian men) check out pop media, minus bruce lee and jackie chan, what kind of sterotypical paintjobs the asian men suffers from (I caught a glimpse of the movie "breakfast at tiffanys" this weekend, and there an example, not even played by an asian guy)

now given that background, your mission is to go out and not only find, BUT KEEP a viable relationship going for any significent duration of time.

sure it's challenging, and sometimes I am up for that challenge, sure. but when you realize the chance that it might actuallly work for the long term (meaning marriage or something equvalently long) is quite small, you gotta calculate whether this mission is worth partaking.

answer maybe different from person to person, so I won't draw any conclusions, but there you are, what to look for.

good luck then dudes.