Can somebody please help me overthink this?

Mari wrote: When I was younger I’ve told a bunch of guys “I’ll think about it” when I wasn’t interested. Simply because a lot of men can’t take a simple “No” or “I’m not interested”. I didn’t want to have to give them a detailed explanation and I definitely didn’t want them to try and convince me otherwise.
Just take it as it is. She gave you a clear message, there’s no need to dissect it. You’re better off putting your time and energy into something or someone else.
And for the closure via text part; I don’t see the issue, when your preferred communication medium was texting.

Guess I didn't make the bunch? Is that good or bad jk
Not sure if it's a cultural thing, but she pretty much uses the same "line" as my first gf so that kind of got me thinking for real...

Why don't you wanna be convinced?
I thought Asian likes to hint but guess we are not the only one who are not straight forward with communication. Guess some communication is better than none.

What about "it's OK"? hav you used that line when he asked if you like something...maybe it's just OK lol

bongocat wrote:

Mari wrote: When I was younger I’ve told a bunch of guys “I’ll think about it” when I wasn’t interested. Simply because a lot of men can’t take a simple “No” or “I’m not interested”. I didn’t want to have to give them a detailed explanation and I definitely didn’t want them to try and convince me otherwise.
Just take it as it is. She gave you a clear message, there’s no need to dissect it. You’re better off putting your time and energy into something or someone else.
And for the closure via text part; I don’t see the issue, when your preferred communication medium was texting.

"She's just playing hard to get" - height troll incel

He be playing :hard to get rid of 🤫

Gary wrote: Cause I'm obsessed...

haha. i can only advise you to let it go (as hard as that may be). that eternal struggle will forever haunt you my friend .

i think there's an issue with the train of thought of 'learning from the past in hope that history won't repeat itself'. it suggests that learning from past errors will result in certainties for the future. this does not apply to attracting a partner. yes, there are some things you can do to improve or fake yourself and become a more attractive suitor. but you want the attraction to be as natural and organic as possible. i personally believe this leads to a more happy and longer relationship.

^ natural and organic? you trying to tell me ,hijacking the forum, harassing the whole community to help people think they are more superior than everyone else . Like a particular person keep on registering here, after getting tossed out so many times .Doesn’t help score anything ?

greensheep wrote:

Gary wrote: Cause I'm obsessed...

haha. i can only advise you to let it go (as hard as that may be). that eternal struggle will forever haunt you my friend .

i think there's an issue with the train of thought of 'learning from the past in hope that history won't repeat itself'. it suggests that learning from past errors will result in certainties for the future. this does not apply to attracting a partner. yes, there are some things you can do to improve or fake yourself and become a more attractive suitor. but you want the attraction to be as natural and organic as possible. i personally believe this leads to a more happy and longer relationship.

at time its more of the situation. obsessed with /fed up by the situation.. still kind of ppl related I guess - fed up by how some ppl handle a certain situation and its actually handle in ways that leads to bad karma and get one into a (toxic) cycle

"The problem is not a problem, the problem is your attitude about the problem", you know what I mean

lol so there are some things we can do to improve or "fake ourself "?

Natural and organic means be comfortable with yourself.don’t be these idiots 👇🏻

^hmm i dunno about that. a fur rimmed robe looks pretty comfy!

Gary wrote: fed up by how some ppl handle a certain situation and its actually handle in ways that leads to bad karma and get one into a (toxic) cycle

i just expect the worse from everyone i encounter. and suddenly everyone doesnt seem that bad anymore.

^You can Alibaba that one for the price of a subway maybe .

On the encounter matter ,you are right .

The guys can have the sexiest Succubus In town , and the girls can have the guy with the most idol element in him. They will still find ways to give each other headaches , to upset each other. The key is try to find someone worth it to endure from.

Starvewolf I agree 100%!

Relationship are headaches, heartaches and draining!
Having common goals language likes etc matters but really all that matters is if you find someone that the good times with that person and worth the hardships!

The word endured is perfectly accurate. Endure the hardships in a relationship because it happens. And if that person isn't worth it let them go.
And if you want that person enough to endure then you will find away to work it out.

I don't want a relationship but I have also not met anyone that I am willing to endure the hardships with.

Gary you got turned down. We all get turned down we all get ghosted. Be thankfully you didn't invest too much time, money or make babies. There are plenty of users out there. This sounds like she tried it and you two didn't match the each other .
And if you do invest time, money, your heart in someone and it doesn't work out. Then you still walk away knowing you have given it your best.
Sometimes there isn't a lesson to learn.

Also I am going to add this I could be very wrong but I think it is a pretty accurate point of view from the younger generation of women 35 and under ...
Women go out in the world to bust their butt just like men to earn a dollar. May not be the same physically hard job but it is still a grind getting up and making bills. Women are educated coming home managing bills, cooking and cleaning mow grass laundry and the list doesn't stop because their are family obligations and that is all without kids.

When you are looking at a perspective partner don't just bring your job and pickle to the table... 😂 I said 🥒 pickle!
Show her that you are going to be the partner in her life not a supervisor... Or worse case a kid she has to cook and clean for! Show her you are going to carry the weight and she is the helpmate.
I do believe women love to care for their husbands naturally but if they have nothing left at the end of day , and all you do is a job and go out she starts to wonder why you are there.

If I wasn't clear women want a relationship but they are wondering if they are getting the short end of the stick. Make sure the relationship is beneficial to both.