Ok...so....do girls like shy Asian guys?

djai86 wrote: Who doesn't... the shyer the better. When I go on a date I act as shy as possible, works like a charm.

Rule 1: Never look them in the eye (mysterious)
Rule 2: Say as little as possible (girls like talking)
Rule 3: No body contact at ALL (don't be a pervert)
Rule 4: Stand approximately 1 metre - 2 metres away from them at all time (give them a little space)
Rule 5: If you go for dinner or drinks, sit on a different table (play hard to get)
Rule 6: Don't say hello or bye to them. (cos you're that cool)

Good luck everyone....best advice ever...

why act? just be yourself

I don't even remember what shyness is anymore as I grow older and become more thick faced

Isaac4Yu wrote:

MagicMarker wrote:

Isaac4Yu wrote: No advice really matters here. I've been touchy feely, a "listener", etc etc. You're better off winging it and just adjusting as you get a feel for what the girl seems comfortable with as the date progresses.

Until you guess totally wrong. Case in point: I was quite touchy feely with a gal on our 2nd date. She encouraged it, responded in kind, and seemed to be enjoying it and even voluntarily took off her top. Left saying she wanted to see me again. The next day she deleted all contact and accused me of being only after sex.

Pity... we had quite a lot of common interests, and she was cute to boot.

Could have just been an excuse? Shit happens every now and then of course. But I still think you shouldn't just go with ONE plan all the time =/

Maybe. I had a hard time understanding what she did.

Well, I should clarify that I don't have just one plan. I go with the flow usually. Many years ago when I was much younger, this girl was throwing all sorts of crazy signals that I didn't pick up at the time. We sat on her couch watching Game 7 of SJ vs Calgary playoff series after a potluck dinner. Suddenly her roommates all left the living room. I was on my computer and was like, "What the heck, why are they leaving?" Anyways, nothing happened. We chatted about school, life, hockey, work, etc. Next few days she goes off on me via IM calling me stupid. Month later she was touchy feely and lovey dovey with another guy from across the country.

So after that I tried to judge what the girl's expectations are (and they VARY widely). Some girls will expect you to get physical really quickly, and take any lack of doing so as uninterest. Other girls seem to have an inner rule where they'll reject anyone who goes too fast too quickly, regardless of how attracted they are to him. It's impossible to tell.

And it usually always turns out that when I follow my instinct on how to approach that, things go badly.

MagicMarker wrote:

Isaac4Yu wrote:

MagicMarker wrote:

Isaac4Yu wrote: No advice really matters here. I've been touchy feely, a "listener", etc etc. You're better off winging it and just adjusting as you get a feel for what the girl seems comfortable with as the date progresses.

Until you guess totally wrong. Case in point: I was quite touchy feely with a gal on our 2nd date. She encouraged it, responded in kind, and seemed to be enjoying it and even voluntarily took off her top. Left saying she wanted to see me again. The next day she deleted all contact and accused me of being only after sex.

Pity... we had quite a lot of common interests, and she was cute to boot.

Could have just been an excuse? Shit happens every now and then of course. But I still think you shouldn't just go with ONE plan all the time =/

Maybe. I had a hard time understanding what she did.

Well, I should clarify that I don't have just one plan. I go with the flow usually. Many years ago when I was much younger, this girl was throwing all sorts of crazy signals that I didn't pick up at the time. We sat on her couch watching Game 7 of SJ vs Calgary playoff series after a potluck dinner. Suddenly her roommates all left the living room. I was on my computer and was like, "What the heck, why are they leaving?" Anyways, nothing happened. We chatted about school, life, hockey, work, etc. Next few days she goes off on me via IM calling me stupid. Month later she was touchy feely and lovey dovey with another guy from across the country.

So after that I tried to judge what the girl's expectations are (and they VARY widely). Some girls will expect you to get physical really quickly, and take any lack of doing so as uninterest. Other girls seem to have an inner rule where they'll reject anyone who goes too fast too quickly, regardless of how attracted they are to him. It's impossible to tell.

And it usually always turns out that when I follow my instinct on how to approach that, things go badly.

lol true. But I think at this point you're better off considering what YOU want yourself as opposed to what these girls want from you instead. Even if I pick up a sign from a girl that she wants to immediately jump into bed on the first date, I'm not sure I'd want anything serious with this girl anyway. And if she thinks my lack of initiative implies a lack of interest so be it.

Guys in general need to stop worrying about what girls want and focus on what they want instead. Although of course that depends on what you're looking for in the first place.

P.S. I'm playing NHL as we speak on PS3 lol

my way to see the boys asia are not shy !
influencing the cultures and their culture is different as well as the other countries of the world!!!!

Shy boys are cute, but if they are too shy, it's hard for me, because I can be shy as well and then everything can get all weird.

djai86 wrote: Who doesn't... the shyer the better. When I go on a date I act as shy as possible, works like a charm.

Rule 1: Never look them in the eye (mysterious)
Rule 2: Say as little as possible (girls like talking)
Rule 3: No body contact at ALL (don't be a pervert)
Rule 4: Stand approximately 1 metre - 2 metres away from them at all time (give them a little space)
Rule 5: If you go for dinner or drinks, sit on a different table (play hard to get)
Rule 6: Don't say hello or bye to them. (cos you're that cool)

Good luck everyone....best advice ever...

uuuuh...

the "do not say hello or bye" doesn't quite work, lol..

Not saying Bye is a huge turn off for me in any guy.
If he acts "too cool" that means he is not interested, and probably takes girls for granted, is how I see it....so basically, I won't talk to you again.

Northwing wrote:

djai86 wrote: Who doesn't... the shyer the better. When I go on a date I act as shy as possible, works like a charm.

Rule 1: Never look them in the eye (mysterious)
Rule 2: Say as little as possible (girls like talking)
Rule 3: No body contact at ALL (don't be a pervert)
Rule 4: Stand approximately 1 metre - 2 metres away from them at all time (give them a little space)
Rule 5: If you go for dinner or drinks, sit on a different table (play hard to get)
Rule 6: Don't say hello or bye to them. (cos you're that cool)

Good luck everyone....best advice ever...

uuuuh...

the "do not say hello or bye" doesn't quite work, lol..

Not saying Bye is a huge turn off for me in any guy.
If he acts "too cool" that means he is not interested, and probably takes girls for granted, is how I see it....so basically, I won't talk to you again.

I don't understand how people can't see this as a joke...I guess people on here can't relate to my British sarcasm -.-...like seriously..sit on another table?!?!

No I hate when a guy is shy ... It causes me to think they are not interested in me, or that they are just weird. I like a guy who doesn't have to be super outgoing, but who can talk back to me casually if I approach him.

djai86 wrote:

Northwing wrote:

djai86 wrote: Who doesn't... the shyer the better. When I go on a date I act as shy as possible, works like a charm.

Rule 1: Never look them in the eye (mysterious)
Rule 2: Say as little as possible (girls like talking)
Rule 3: No body contact at ALL (don't be a pervert)
Rule 4: Stand approximately 1 metre - 2 metres away from them at all time (give them a little space)
Rule 5: If you go for dinner or drinks, sit on a different table (play hard to get)
Rule 6: Don't say hello or bye to them. (cos you're that cool)

Good luck everyone....best advice ever...

uuuuh...

the "do not say hello or bye" doesn't quite work, lol..

Not saying Bye is a huge turn off for me in any guy.
If he acts "too cool" that means he is not interested, and probably takes girls for granted, is how I see it....so basically, I won't talk to you again.

I don't understand how people can't see this as a joke...I guess people on here can't relate to my British sarcasm -.-...like seriously..sit on another table?!?!

I feel sorry for you, man.

It's ok. I'm sure tons of chicks got your joke.