I never have a proper date yet

Princess_Nincompoop wrote:

Some people here are telling you to change your hobbies/ who you are to get the girls.

But changing yourself to try to impress others isnt the best solution in my opinion.
If change is what YOU want then go for it, otherwise just keep doing you and strive for your own goals.

Be unapologetically you, be confident and create your own happiness.
In time youll connect with someone and it will just click and go from there.

I agree with what this princess said. I don't think it's good to force yourself to become someone you're not. Like becoming a gym-bro or something. I do agree that it's good to find some new hobbies and passions. It can also take your mind off things. I took up a very nice hobby a few years ago that makes me appreciate alot of smaller things in life and I'm alot better for it. I've only had one very-short half-relationship 5 years ago if you can even call it that haha. And honestly now that I'm 31 it would be nice to have a new girl. But take your time. It's better to find a right one than any one. I just recently got rejected by a girl that wasn't even traditionally my type so I know how much it can hurt lol.

Push yourself with what you feel comfortable with and take everything one step at a time. It's hard I know, I'm really bad at this every day even when it's dark here in Denmark, but there will be a happier day ahead even though that may not be what you want to hear right now ❤❤

Outdoor cardio exercise can do wonders for mood. It's like a giant mental reset button. Helps when trying to stay positive, so you have a better aura around people generally (no one likes a miserable git )

Jamitboi wrote: I'm 24 years old and I haven't met females face to face properly at all in my life.

I think I'm doing something wrong and I don't know how to make friends. I mean when I try and talk and be nice they just walk away. Maybe it's because I'm boring or I don't have what other Asian guys have, which is a uni degree.

I don't really have anything but I only got is talking nice and at part time job with some hobbies, playing video games and watching movie, that is it.

being single is underrated. I've had nothing but shit relationships all my life. Don't fret if you haven't had one yet. Not saying it wouldn't be glorious, just saying it might not have been. Being single ain't so bad, but I can understand you'd like to experience it. Whenever it happens though, I hope you have waaaaaay more luck than I did.

Jamitboi wrote: I'm on the spectrum lol

My philosophy Prof (has also a degree in neuro science) gave me an answer that was so simple and yet so profound. "This is how your brain works."

I think most of the good meant advice negates if you are autist, really.
A lot of people try to be special, at all costs. While you are sitting there and try to be normal at all cost. Because truth is, people won't really like/accept you for whom you are because it is out of the norm. You will have friends that are facinated by whom you really are. But for the rest, you just try to fit in like a chameleon knowing that you do not experience the world how people around you do.
Basically, it is easier to find weirdos like you (don't have to be on the spectrum) than be (even comfy) under normal people. People who try to change you because you are "not living in the real life."

Jamitboi wrote: I'm 24 years old and I haven't met females face to face properly at all in my life.

I think I'm doing something wrong and I don't know how to make friends. I mean when I try and talk and be nice they just walk away. Maybe it's because I'm boring or I don't have what other Asian guys have, which is a uni degree.

I don't really have anything but I only got is talking nice and at part time job with some hobbies, playing video games and watching movie, that is it.

You're all worked up...You shouldn't worry about getting a date...rather live your life and be yourself, don't compare yourself to anyone.

Jamitboi wrote: I'm 24 years old and I haven't met females face to face properly at all in my life.

I think I'm doing something wrong and I don't know how to make friends. I mean when I try and talk and be nice they just walk away. Maybe it's because I'm boring or I don't have what other Asian guys have, which is a uni degree.

I don't really have anything but I only got is talking nice and at part time job with some hobbies, playing video games and watching movie, that is it.

Your doing fine, just be yourself. Don't have to change anything about yourself to fit in. Eventually if u do things that you enjoy doing you will find somebody that will also enjoy the things you like. I like video games, anime and movies and I'm a hermit but I still found girls that like the same stuff as me and it works.

It's a lot easier to be yourself than to be somebody your not because you will have to keep up pretending you like something you really don't. And if you happen to find a relationship, you will eventually move in together and the real you comes out. At that point people tend to start finding flaws and become unhappy or if that happens and both people take the time to explore each other's interest. But people tend to just find people that match themselves.

I am shy in person so I get what you mean with talking face to face but that's usually why all my relationships start online since I get to know the persons personality first. All I can say from my experience is just look for girls that have the same interest and go from there.

Also wanted to add something. There are already good contributions and advices. Remember, if you don't love yourself, you'll be stuck chasing people who won't love you either.
Stop chasing women and focus on the goals and business you want to create but also take risks because: Great things never came from comfort zones.
Correct me if I'm wrong.

I think some change is good. If you try to be yourself and you're not having with not getting a date, you should not focus on that and instead focus on self-improvement, not with the goal of getting a date but rather with the goal of achieving happiness in life. Find new hobbies, like maybe learning languages, or going out hiking, or joining food exploration groups. If you are in a city, there might be activities like? Only you know what your interests are, and so cultivate those and add hobbies around what you like.

Once you improve your own happiness, you will gain confidence and will meet people automatically and you won't even realize it.

Hello it’s been a few days and I saw a lot of people on this thread have given the same advice about self care and self development. Have you taken this stuff into consideration and implemented self care?