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edano_leo wrote:

NoFeminist wrote: Who has better condition? You seem to not believe in yourself although you belong already to the richest people on planet earth, this poor victim mentality is self sabotage. Be the man women need you to be, houses and money can be taken away. But they can never take away your heart. Btw I'm not talkin about organ trade here. Just saying

this is where most guy get it wrong. they wanna be happy but they dont do the work to become happy first by just being by themselves.
theyre too focus on building wealth, which is good cos it will give them more options but they also need to focus on improving their physical, mental, emotional and spiritual side..not just the financial side.

being in a relationship won't solve your "happiness" problems. if you're an unhappy needy person with low opinion of yourself and you get into a relationship, guess what? you're still an unhappy needy person with low self esteem ..just with a girlfriend. It doesnt change a thing about you.

i've been saying this a lot of times now in this site but i'll say it again:

The best place to be for people who is not in a relationship is when you are loving your life being single. You love being alone, you enjoy being alone, and you don’t feel like like you are missing out on anything. Don’t get me wrong, you still would love somebody to compliment that little empty space in your life, but you're just as cool and confident being alone.

I am totally agree with you ,.....but the problem is that asian parents tend to condition/manipulate you at a young age to become a doctor, lawyer, engineer etc, or at least thinking about how to make a lot money as soon as possible.
Sadly for most asian, money is everything.

A child as an individual person will miss out completely in asia.
You are like a robot. You are not allowed to use your brain, speak up when you have something in your mind and if you do it, you get kicks and punches or they say something bad about your dreams, goals and so on, because only they know what is good for you.
Also, you are not allowed to cry. The more you cry, the more beatings you will get.
You become totally brainwashed. Sick asian parenting.

I realize that many asians, including me start using their own real mind, when they are around 24 years old. Blessing in disguise I grew up here in Germany and got involved in the western lifestyle. So from time to time I was able to questioning some of my parents parenting.
Woah it ends up very bad for me, but this is another story. ^^'

So for someone who is fresh off the boat and start living and creating his on (social) life, far away from his parents, it could be hard, especially when it comes to get to know the opposite gender.
I noticed that many have an awkwardly social behaviour. Hard to explain - My english sucks*harhar*
But this behaviour is the reason, why most asian man especially in china, japan and korea are singles.
It is like they start using and developing their cognitive abilities, like a baby learn how to run, when it comes to social interaction.
The socially and spiritually things are the hardest to learn and when you learn those things in a advanced age it won't be easier.
Memorizing some college stuff is easy for every normal healthy person, but creating yourself is in my opinion the hardest way, if one is not able to create or become himself (or at least understand the "struggle",) he will always has himself as his enemy.
This problem leads to many psychological illnesses in asia and also in western countries and ends with suicide.
I went through a lot shit,too, because of that problem.
If the future parents won't stop this sick parenting, we will have a big problem in every field.

"Luckly" I was able to understand the big picture and when I become a father one day, I will grow my kids to have a strong mind, focusing on creating their own personality first....and the rest will be history...

Thank you for reading, if you find some misspelling or grammatical errors, you can keep it for yourself

louis xiao wrote: I tried many years seeking excellent. That is why i am single, I never chased before. Even girls talk to me I donot know how to develop the relationship

if you really did chase excellence, you wouldn't look as desperate as you are right now with this mail order bride bs.
like i said on my previous post, most of men only try to improve their financial status. what about your mental and emotional status?
are you needy, insecure, jealous, too quiet, anti-social, got low self-esteem, has anger issues, etc. any personality traits that you think women finds you unattractive - work on it.
do you have game? like knowing how to talk to women by being playful, fun and flirty without looking/sounding like a creep?

most important of all :

do you already have a good idea how human behavior and relationships work?
just like an engineer studying for years just to become good at building things, you also need to study human behavior and relationships to become good at building and maintaining one. it is simple logic which many people dont seem to understand and apply to their own lives and they wonder
why they seem to get rejected, not meet the man/woman they like or maintain a good relationship with their bf/gf/wife.


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That is why in Asia, first marry then career. Because having a woman beside your mental will naturally become excellent

some reason I trust Mr. Gurkenglas more. he seem more trustworthy. dis guy edanoleo . just blah blah blah all the time errrrrwhere

louis xiao wrote: That is why in Asia, first marry then career. Because having a woman beside your mental will naturally become excellent

and this is why it is not considered a good strategy. what happens if your woman leave you? then you're left broken until you find another woman to fill that emptiness, and then for a period of time you'll be happy temporarily but eventually you'll have problems along the way and you'll break-up and then you'll back again to that same empty feeling, and the cycle goes on and on.

just like a drug addict that wants his daily shot of heroin, he will never become satisfied in his life if he doesnt get a shot of his drug.
and love is similar to that. love is also a form of chemical called Dopamine. that is why we go through the very same symptoms of withdrawal just like a drug addict when our loved ones leaves us.

peterhenrytran wrote: some reason I trust Mr. Gurkenglas more. he seem more trustworthy. dis guy edanoleo . just blah blah blah all the time errrrrwhere

haha cool story, bro. i back up my statements logically. i dont just make it up.
it's up to you to dismiss all the facts i put out.

gurkenglas just said "I am totally agree with you" and you you trust him, therefore you indirectly trust me as well.
see how that works?

like i says ..... blah blah blah all the time...errrrwhere

Leo has a good thought. He mentioned some good points.

Just I am a bit old my parent want me to get married that is why.

If I donot have such good asian parent I will not be so hurry, but I can not hate them because without their hard work I won’t come to australia and think of one day I can have a white girl friend

Luis Xiao I would like to recommend you to read these books:

"How to Win Friends and Influence People"
"How to Stop Worrying and Start Living"

All by Dale Carnegie, to get more communication and social competence.