"I can't get a white (non-asian) girl because I'm Asian!"

i personally think and quite a few foreign people have told me that asian guys are physically disadvantaged (looks physique etc), but being Japanese as i am, i have a confidence in our modesty (who likes arrogant conceited people?) and loyalty (many tend to be more dedicated and caring than white guys), so we might not strike a good first impression, but whilst white guys are relatively shallow and want one thing only and often mistaken about their value, mistreating really nice girls, its a win for japanese guys if white girls get to know them well, cos theyll find what i described them as and such. its just hard for japanese guys cos we are very shy sometimes, so many white girls cant be bothered to keep trying. so what i wanna say to white girls is, dont give up till you get to know us! we wont let you down if you dont give up! haha sorry for the essay

shighe: you sound just as if not more arrogant and over-generalizing than the white males you describe

shige wrote:

i personally think and quite a few foreign people have told me that asian guys are physically disadvantaged (looks physique etc), but being Japanese as i am, i have a confidence in our modesty (who likes arrogant conceited people?) and loyalty (many tend to be more dedicated and caring than white guys), so we might not strike a good first impression, but whilst white guys are relatively shallow and want one thing only and often mistaken about their value, mistreating really nice girls, its a win for japanese guys if white girls get to know them well, cos theyll find what i described them as and such. its just hard for japanese guys cos we are very shy sometimes, so many white girls cant be bothered to keep trying. so what i wanna say to white girls is, dont give up till you get to know us! we wont let you down if you dont give up! haha sorry for the essay

hmmm lol

shige wrote:

i personally think and quite a few foreign people have told me that asian guys are physically disadvantaged (looks physique etc), but being Japanese as i am, i have a confidence in our modesty (who likes arrogant conceited people?) and loyalty (many tend to be more dedicated and caring than white guys), so we might not strike a good first impression, but whilst white guys are relatively shallow and want one thing only and often mistaken about their value, mistreating really nice girls, its a win for japanese guys if white girls get to know them well, cos theyll find what i described them as and such. its just hard for japanese guys cos we are very shy sometimes, so many white girls cant be bothered to keep trying. so what i wanna say to white girls is, dont give up till you get to know us! we wont let you down if you dont give up! haha sorry for the essay

You're not doing yourself any favors by looking at everyone based on race. Don't stereotype.

Stop looking at yourself as a Japanese guy. Look yourself as a guy. Whatever faults you may have is attributed to you as a man, not because you are Japanese man.

The same goes for girls. Stop looking at girls just because they're "white". Look at a girl just because she is a girl.

well people can live in denial all they want. if you are going to say going upslope is as easy as going downslope. they are not the same on level of ease. one is obviously easier than the other. i have noticed a difference.

Blaming the lack of love on a factor I can't change is not something I like to do, mainly because it takes control away from me and gets me down. Put it this way, if you walked into a club with two white hotties from work, and busted out some gangsta moves, most white girls in the room will want to get a piece of you irrespective of what race you're from. Alcohol helps too lol.

I just had this happen to me last night and it was pretty liberating. So I think it's a matter of just putting ourselves out there in spite of ourselves (like most things in life really).

Good luck.

When you go clubbing with 2 hot girls, of course other girls are going to look at you and want to get to know you more than if you were to go alone or with a group of guys!

just saying i go for what is favorable vs. unfavorable. actually club tend to be loud as earthquake and you have to yell and that sucks for networking. i find quiet parties much better you can bounce around and talk to people. there have been love gurus that said clubs as not as productive at networking as quiet parties. another negative factor is girls' nature is on guard and all the guys there are for girls so you have heavy competition.

just my piece.

OscarY wrote:

Blaming the lack of love on a factor I can't change is not something I like to do, mainly because it takes control away from me and gets me down. Put it this way, if you walked into a club with two white hotties from work, and busted out some gangsta moves, most white girls in the room will want to get a piece of you irrespective of what race you're from. Alcohol helps too lol.

I just had this happen to me last night and it was pretty liberating. So I think it's a matter of just putting ourselves out there in spite of ourselves (like most things in life really).

Good luck.

I would be the girl in the club ( not that i would ever step foot in one...but lets pretend..pretend is fun) that would be looking at ANYONE like they had grown another head if they busted out some " gangsta moves" not like this more like this

jake01 wrote:

When you go clubbing with 2 hot girls, of course other girls are going to look at you and want to get to know you more than if you were to go alone or with a group of guys!

nope... not always true.. some of us wont approach a guy if he is with girls either. because girls can be more nasty and bitchy. if a girl or girls is with a good looking guy...regardless of his race..that girl or girls has it in her mind that she is WITH that guy and she has a chance with him. so another girl coming up...even just to talk...is more or less coming on to her so called "territory". we women can be jealous even when there is no reason to be jealous. We can make up reasons.

guys hanging out on the other hand ... may not be as bad...but most women probably still wouldnt approach a bunch of guys because people might start thinking " look at her coming on to all those guys...she is such a ho!"..and the girl could still just be talking to them..or could only be focusing on one guy..but people will be idiots and see her as coming on to all of them.


a girl approaching a guy with other girls around him... trying to take someone else's " territory"

a girl approaching a guy with others guys.. she's a " ho"