Do asian men date single mother?

KangNi81 wrote: The fact that someone has children shouldn't play a role in choosing a partner.

Sorry for being blunt, your statement here sounds very naive to me. Of course it matters if the woman in question already has a child. She will have different priorities and responsibilities. Plus, you can't fault a man if he rather chooses to have his own kids instead of dealing with the kid of a single mother.

(Same applies to single fathers, btw.)

Hi !

i Wanted to Reply because I am a Single mother my Daughter is 2 Years old , Something that i always had in mind is that not all the Asian guys are Going to be close minded But unfortunately a lot of them Still have the mindset of the old generation. Don’t be Afraid to Say You have a kid Because they’re the most Beautiful blessing that you can Have , A mature man won’t Say “ i want my own kids “ 🙄 like just please iF he is mature enough he will Treat your kids as his ! He would accept both of You and he will loves both of you without Any Excuses, Don’t listen to guys that Says they want their own kids just because you are a Single mom it doesn’t mean you are meant to be Single . i have met great Asian guys who were open minded about dating single mothers , Don’t waste your time with immaturity man . Your worth matters and your value I am sure if he doesn’t want to grown like a man there’s so much fish in the ocean Hun, guys comes and Go , but i am 100% sure you will find what you been looking for ☺️ Love yourself a lot ! And remember having a kid it’s beautiful

TigerfromSpace wrote:

KangNi81 wrote: The fact that someone has children shouldn't play a role in choosing a partner.

Sorry for being blunt, your statement here sounds very naive to me. Of course it matters if the woman in question already has a child. She will have different priorities and responsibilities. Plus, you can't fault a man if he rather chooses to have his own kids instead of dealing with the kid of a single mother.

(Same applies to single fathers, btw.)

I don't think anyone my age or experience can be called naive. Firstly, I have my own children and secondly, before my own children, I had partners with children from first marriage. I'm not saying it's easy i don't want to claim that my attitude is right for everyone. maybe I'm just more tolerant than others. maybe it's also my age? But at my age, it becomes really difficult to find someone who doesn't already have a family in some way.
therefore I would not call myself naive, but rather realistic.
Of course, I respect your opinion and also the opinion of people who want to have children of their own. Incidentally, the presence of children does not exclude one's own children ...
I met someone here who said to me: I take people for who they are. With everything as they are.

in conclusion, it must be said that it is always an individual decision. for one it is possible, for the other it is not ...

KangNi81 wrote:

TigerfromSpace wrote:

KangNi81 wrote: The fact that someone has children shouldn't play a role in choosing a partner.

Sorry for being blunt, your statement here sounds very naive to me. Of course it matters if the woman in question already has a child. She will have different priorities and responsibilities. Plus, you can't fault a man if he rather chooses to have his own kids instead of dealing with the kid of a single mother.

(Same applies to single fathers, btw.)

I don't think anyone my age or experience can be called naive. Firstly, I have my own children and secondly, before my own children, I had partners with children from first marriage. I'm not saying it's easy i don't want to claim that my attitude is right for everyone. maybe I'm just more tolerant than others. maybe it's also my age? But at my age, it becomes really difficult to find someone who doesn't already have a family in some way.
therefore I would not call myself naive, but rather realistic.
Of course, I respect your opinion and also the opinion of people who want to have children of their own. Incidentally, the presence of children does not exclude one's own children ...
I met someone here who said to me: I take people for who they are. With everything as they are.

in conclusion, it must be said that it is always an individual decision. for one it is possible, for the other it is not ...

First of all, just because someone gets older does not mean that they dont have any naive worldviews at all. It does not mean that you are a naive person, just that your thoughts about this topic in particular are naive.

Second of all:

KangNi81 wrote: The fact that someone has children shouldn't play a role in choosing a partner.

This sentence gives the impression that people in general should not let the fact that someone already has children influence their decision of whether to date her or not. This is just naive, due to the reasons I have already mentioned.

But then again, you contradicted yourself by saying that your attitude might not be right for everyone. Yes, you dont let the fact that someone has children play a role in choosing a partner. You. It does not mean that others should do the same. Because there are tons of good reasons not to date a single mother.

Third of all: You are 40. It is not uncommon for 40 year old men to date women that are a few years younger and thus do not have a kid yet.

PS: In before it comes off that way: I have nothing against single mothers (as human beings and friends). I know it must be hard to raise a kid alone.

TigerfromSpace wrote:

KangNi81 wrote:

TigerfromSpace wrote:

KangNi81 wrote: The fact that someone has children shouldn't play a role in choosing a partner.

Sorry for being blunt, your statement here sounds very naive to me. Of course it matters if the woman in question already has a child. She will have different priorities and responsibilities. Plus, you can't fault a man if he rather chooses to have his own kids instead of dealing with the kid of a single mother.

(Same applies to single fathers, btw.)

I don't think anyone my age or experience can be called naive. Firstly, I have my own children and secondly, before my own children, I had partners with children from first marriage. I'm not saying it's easy i don't want to claim that my attitude is right for everyone. maybe I'm just more tolerant than others. maybe it's also my age? But at my age, it becomes really difficult to find someone who doesn't already have a family in some way.
therefore I would not call myself naive, but rather realistic.
Of course, I respect your opinion and also the opinion of people who want to have children of their own. Incidentally, the presence of children does not exclude one's own children ...
I met someone here who said to me: I take people for who they are. With everything as they are.

in conclusion, it must be said that it is always an individual decision. for one it is possible, for the other it is not ...

First of all, just because someone gets older does not mean that they dont have any naive worldviews at all. It does not mean that you are a naive person, just that your thoughts about this topic in particular are naive.

Second of all:

KangNi81 wrote: The fact that someone has children shouldn't play a role in choosing a partner.

This sentence gives the impression that people in general should not let the fact that someone already has children influence their decision of whether to date her or not. This is just naive, due to the reasons I have already mentioned.

But then again, you contradicted yourself by saying that your attitude might not be right for everyone. Yes, you dont let the fact that someone has children play a role in choosing a partner. You. It does not mean that others should do the same. Because there are tons of good reasons not to date a single mother.

Third of all: You are 40. It is not uncommon for 40 year old men to date women that are a few years younger and thus do not have a kid yet.

PS: In before it comes off that way: I have nothing against single mothers (as human beings and friends). I know it must be hard to raise a kid alone.

I don't think it's really worth noting that everything I write is just my view of things and doesn't apply to all people.
I am sorry if the statements were misleading.
Of course everyone has a right to their own opinion and view of things.
Whether you think I'm naive or not, when I choose a partner, I won't make it dependent on whether there are kids or not. Nor do I make the selection based on his age or size, etc.
The only thing that matters is that the feelings are the right ones.

@Lexi

You got that to the point very nicely!

KangNi81 wrote: I don't think it's really worth noting that everything I write is just my view of things and doesn't apply to all people.

It is worth noting if you make generalisations like the one I quoted earlier. For example, if someone says "black people are idiots", of course it is only their opinion. But it is still right to confront them about it, especially since we are on a public forum .

i Am Not Sure who wrote This (The fact that someone has children shouldn't play a role in choosing a partner ) But i Feel like You shouldn’t Judge anyone Life ; Because let me Tell You This People Can Get Married and Be the Most Happier Couple in The world with Kids and They Can Get divorce and what’s Happen ? They Become Single Parents , So You are Saying Just because they’re Single Mother’s/ Fathers they don’t Have the Same Right to be Happy or to Find a Partner ? Why’s that . Because i am a Single Mother and i did dated Asian male and they didn’t get Bothered to be with me Because of my daughter, Age doesn’t define maturity , People who Choose to Date single Parents is Because they’re maturity ready to Love two Person , Because they do know what they want . Kids doesn’t limit Your love life or your life It’s YOU ! You don’t do absolutely anything being negative Just because You don’t agree with Asian male dating single mother’s ☺️ , i am Sure there’s people out there who would take the risk and People who are Open minded.


Not only Asian Male But others ethnicity , iF you don’t want kids Simple Use protection, Get Birth control . Because Having a Child it’s the most beautiful thing in Life and Yes it Can be Hard taking Care of them alone But not impossible:) i am a single mother and i am a Graphic designer / illustrator My daughter didn’t limit my life she Pushed me To become a better mom , To Give her the best


People Have their different opinions Yes i do agree with it , But stop Judging others Life because this Can Happen to anybody out there ☺️ be Kind , Be respectful and Be positive . We aren’t perfect , You aren’t either, You don’t know How Your Future would Be Worry more About Your life Because choosing others people life won’t give You anything, Whatever you write in Here it won’t Changes people’s mind or Feelings .


God bless You heart ☺️

Well like everything else dating somebody with kids is a preference just like dating different ethnicities. There are people that do and people that don't, can't really judge anybody on what their choices are. Its not if they are mature or not, has nothing to do with that.

But if we are talking about asian culture and how family is very important to how people perceive us then yes asian guys tend to want their own kids. Just saying this as a generalization from my point of view. This kind of thinking is mostly brought up from how we were raised and traditions we have and how society views us. So every guy is different on if they want to date a single mother. It just depends on the person and their preference.

But in history, you don't see many asians with other peoples kids in the overall scheme of things because of how asian society views guys/girls with other people's kids. Its just been looked down upon. Ya its not right but that has been going on all over the world and in almost all ethnicities.

There are some cultures where guys like a woman with kids because they are fertile and will help them bear his own kids and there are cultures where it is shunned but that also depends on preference and goals.

For an example, an American asian guy is more open to dating a single mom opposed to somebody from lets say an asian country. America has alot more single moms and it is more open minded and not shunned upon as much because it is a social norm. But for somebody in an asian country, it might not be as normal so they don't date single moms because society might think your inferior to having other people's kids. Nobody wants to feel inferior so they don't take that risk. But in that decision alone, yes you can view that guy as not manly for not wanting to date a single mom. But in their defense, they jist dont want to be looked down upon by society.

Pretty much bottom line, its how you were raised, what society thinks and what your personal preference is. Its not all black and white. There are exceptions everywhere and every guy is different but yes if we had to group an overall worldly view yes asians don't date single mothers as often. Just like how in an overall worldy view asian guys aren't as desirable but it is slowly changing for the good.

This is my view and nothing one person says is right or wrong. Its what I have observed and experienced. At the end, its just preference of how you want to be seen. There are guys that don't care about how society views us and there are guys that do. Can't call people out just for believing in your preferences.

Hi Drea22, i hope u're doing well and things are working out nicely with ur contact.

From my experience Asian men tend to not date single mothers. Ofc there are some, i've been in a relationship with a Chinese guy a couple of years ago even though having 2 kids. Still it's not that common.

Wishing u the best of luck and the best for u and ur kids