Your experiences dating a Non-Asian girl / Asian guy?

AxelVal wrote:

The second is playing headgames with me right now. I've told him I like him and the last two times we've hung out he's talked about this girl he's smitten with but has never met and still hasn't given me an answer beyond "I'll think about it"
A small group of us went to the beach and he wrote her name in the sand while the two of us were walking together. And the other night I commented on the "I <3 You" that was on his hand and he said it was for the webcam and something about so his international girlfriend could see it.
I'm starting to get annoyed but I can't stop liking him.

And the third I haven't told yet. I'm waiting on #2 to stop jerking around with me.

(#2 and #3 go to my university and I met #1 last summer at a high school college program at Stanford.)

If you want to get #2 - stop seeing #2 and try to date #3... if #2 is playing headgames with you, you are just making yourself an easy prey by waiting for him. You need to make yourself unavailable so he feels the urge to give you a reply. Go for other guys because it's a win-win situation for you. You may very well find that you like the other guy more after you've gone out with him, and by going out with other guys you make yourself more desirable and #2 will be more inclined to do the chase. Remember, men have big egos and people want what they can't have. He's going to feel like an idiot clinging on a girl over the Internet when he sees you holding hands with another guy.

You can still go back to choosing #2 even when you see #3 because it's fair game until you commit to being exclusive which won't be after a little while.. although he seems like a douche and that's just being immature.

Just my two cents...

anti-venom wrote:

Just my two cents...

That makes a lot of sense, stopping to think about it. :]
There are two other guys I like a lot now and one of them has a girlfriend but I do think the other one is single..
And both of these crushes are going well I think. I can't wait for Spring Semester to start so I can see all of my friends again ^^ Plus I'll have a class with one of those two :] Fantastic excuse to hang out and maybe after a couple weeks tell him I like him.

I'm one of the rare ones in Southern California that had the privilege to go out with a very attractive white female when I was in high school. The funny thing is that she was the one that came on to me and she is not the type of girl that is into the whole asian culture. She is one of those socal white girls (you gotta to be in socal to know what i'm talking about, sorta like a party girl)
Back in high school, i was one of the jocks. I played on the basketball team and is pretty muscular for an asian kid and 6'0 tall. Unlike the other asian kids at my school, i had balls to talk to girls (I have no shame lol). The experience is more like a fling than anything else. She was a sex fiend, but I didn't mind and I helped debunk the myth that all asians are small haha. Problems eventually hit us, every time we go out to eat, the choices are apple bees, subway, BJ's, Oliver Garden, Togo, and more american food place. We rarely would go to a asian place to eat and it's not like she doesn't like it. She just doesn't know about it and feels more comfortable eating american food. The culture difference is just too big! Like I'll go to one of her friend's party with her and I would be the only asian person there. Even though I know some of the people there, her crowd of friends are just too white? Ummm I guess you can say they are like the rednecks of Southern California. I feel like my choices are limited when I go out with her and I don't feel like I can act the way I am. Maybe it was my fault that I am dumb and naive, but I've learned that an asian guy can get a white girl if your game is tight.
After that relationship, I dated a few girls and during my first year of college, I met a half Italian half Korean girl. This girl is model potential, extremely attractive and very independent (lives on her own and works to support herself). She also happens to be shia labeouf high school classmate and friend. We had english class together first and what made me seem attractive to her was my brain. I purposely sat near her on the first day so if we go into groups, I would be in her group. Plan failed on the first day. However, the second day I sat down before her and she chose to sit next to me. We were divided into groups to exchange the introduction paragraph that we had came up in class for an essay. After she read my paper, she said, "Wow, this is really good". Since that, we began to talk more and more. We established a close relationship and even went on a few dates. We picked a few classes together the next semester and dated for a while. She is more open to asian culture and food and we had a great time together. One thing I will always remember is the admiration I received from my friends whenever they see me with her. However, it did not last for long. Our schedule became conflicted because I worked in the morning and went to school at night, while she went to school in the morning and worked at night. We just grew farther and farther away from each other and it came to a point where we hardly talk, but remained as friends.

These are my experience with white women but I'm sure more will come

never really had an experience dating an asian guy but ... I've talked to one and he feels afraid..... I have trouble mostly because I know Im mixed but because of my skin color I always get looked at weirdly .... so ... yea no experience here haha it would be nice though since parents insist that I get with an asian but to be honest I understand some of the morals and Im so used to it cause .... Ive been around it my whole life.... other than that I find asian men very very attractive

Heya all

I thought I'll share my first experience with dating a white girl

A good friend of mine extended an invitation to join him at an azn bar call Privilege down here in Sydney.

The RnB music was pumping loud, good friends getting drunk and dancing with the azn girls...I was pretty much neutralised hehe

It seemed like any other normal nite at Privilege, I was leaning against a wall and catching up with a gym friend of mine...

when across the room, I saw one of the most amazing Aussie girl looking my way. She was having a drink with her Azn friend at the time. Initially, I thought maybe she was looking at the DJ behind me, but when I turned my back...I made an amazing discovery

there was no DJ behind me and she was still looking in my direction

I gozzled what was left of my first drink and walked towards her...

it was pretty much all or nothing (Kamikaze style hehe)

I grab her hand and twirlled her towards me and said "I heard from a little bird that you have a fetish for Azn guys"

She giggled and told me how she loved my confidence

What happened next seem like a game of hide and seek in the night club scene. She would run away with her friend a couple of times, come closer only for me to twirl her on the dance floor a few more times. Ahhh Good memories

I guess what was installed for us was definately one of the most beautiful experiences of my life. I was to travel to Thailand within the week but we met up just before my flight was due.

A picnic setting, with the harbour bridge and a gentle ocean breeze, holding her in my arms and just learning about each other, seemed like heaven.

I found out that she loved the chinese culture, she moved out of home at the age of 18 and previously dated one azn guy during her high school days.

I would love joking with her and making her smile, I told her that she was my first white girl, it was sooo different from dating azn girls. Warm, confident, easy going. Before I left, she made me promise that I would contact her from Thailand.

Even tho I was having the time of my life in Thailand with my brother, I would think about Suzanne from time to time. I sent her a few emails, and called her in Phuket, making her feel jealous of all the fun things we were doing in Thailand. From Lobster meals, to cheap fancy cocktails, to more buckets of alcohie and outdoor adventures I was busy engaging myself.

Before we left Phuket, my brother insisted on having the lobster sashimi. Eating raw fish isn't particular my favourite dish (except for salmon), but being the good brother we decided to eat Lobster sashimi before arriving back at Bangkok.

Naturally, we got sick... really sick. I usually copped it the fastest. My brother was telling me it was all in my head...

only for Karma to strike!!...my brother copped it worse and was sick longer haha

but even tho we were sick, I wanted to get something special for Suzanne. She had mentioned that her favourite animal was a white tiger.

Now finding a white tiger isn't the easiest of things to do. Pictures of tigers usually came in orange or yellow, but the white tiger was taking longer than expected to find.

Siam has like some mega shopping malls, but like a madman on a mission...I eventually found that white tiger...only to discover it was one of the set pieces of 12 animal set lol

so i decided to get a stuffed white tiger toy instead...

just kidding heheeh

Each animal was individually wrapped in gift paper, so naturally you can't see what the item was unless you unwrapped it.

When I arrived back in Sydney, I told her to close her eyes and presented my gift on her lap. I told her I was thinking about her and that this gift was something that I felt would be special to her, however, she would have to open each little item one at a time.

On her third go, she opened a little white tiger and I could see her heart melt.

I generally thought we had a solid connection. But life doesn't always turn out the way you expect it to go.

We would do couple stuff for a couple of months, but she had her reasons to end it.

I was sadden by it at the time, but life moves on.

I'll always remember the special memories we shared together and I'm extremely grateful to have experienced the beauty of the interracial relationship between AM / WF

A lot of people here can write a book good stuff nonetheless!

Wow............ I felt like I was reading a book reading those responses....... sheesh, really detailed. Spiffy that you guys remember that! Personally I've never dated an asian either, but I've been talking to oodles of them. Not much has come from it, except I've gained some pretty amazing friends, two of them are helping me on my journey to become fluent in Japanese *woohoo*. I was soooooo close to dating one, but he turned out to be a douche, I believe I told this story, long story short, he had a girlfriend, but didn't bother to let ME know that, when making our plans. He is originally from Seattle, but was in the military, and was going back to Seattle on leave, I was going to meet him there, until I met "her". And now one of the guys I'm talking to who is Vietnamese, he says he like me, I don't trust him, he says the "I love you" thing a little too easily, and that's not usually a good sign. Plus, I'm just not into him like that, I guess...... not exactly sure why. Could be a number of things *shrugs*. I also had a crush on a Korean guy, we talk, but I think he's confused about his feelings, I don't need to get into details, but long story short, he likes a girl and they're sort of "invovled" it's nothing official, but he also likes me *Sure fire sign he's no good right?*. HAHAHA geez, I ranted on about my life rather than "dating life". Well, these are experiances dealing with asian men none the less .

Shamino wrote:

Heya all

I thought I'll share my first experience with dating a white girl

A good friend of mine extended an invitation to join him at an azn bar call Privilege down here in Sydney.

hey man, good job with getting one down here. I've tried myself (and still am) but i guess im just not as lucky as some others.

well done!

dating white girls is cool. just be funny and smart ...
when she laughts you won.
and the worst think is that you can do is that she thinks that you don't have the balls. just do that what you want and trust yourself... girls want mens and not boys

How about dating a white guy!? ^^ no, just Joke!^^

Dating with whites girls is quite different. It depends on the single girl, you guys date with. It is the same thing to date with aisa gilrs. German Girls for sure are different to us girls.