Deadass serious question. Where do you guys go look for love?

So ? then what ? Do you mean your life is expected to end at 31 ? if so, I'm sorry to hear that. If not, life goes on & GO FIND YOUR NEXT BELOVED ONE.

Just for information, here is a list of life expectancy in several countries:
en.wikipedia.org/wik...life_expectancy
South Korea: Overall 82.8 / F. 85.8 / M. 79.7
USA: Overall 78.9 / F. 81.4 / M. 76.3

coronavirus will give you unconditional love.

I just met my ex-husband when I was 28. We were together for 11 years and we were married for 10 years and we have 3 great kids together. I can tell you: your life is not over yet!
I can tell you it's just getting started
The question really is, where can you find your next wife?!?
I haven't found a steady friend over the internet. I've been to relevant websites, but strangely enough, I met men who were good friends but no relationships.
I've been friends with one of them for 14 years.
life is unpredictable. Make the most of your time!

BurntAvocadoToast wrote: I'm 28 years old now. Just got out of a 5-year relationship (Met her from hey-ai and she lived an hour away). I don't care about much age too much but I'd prefer someone younger than me. I feel like it's almost too late to get into a relationship and make it serious considering my age and have kids and all that. I hopped back on here and feel hopeless. I went on Tinder and even felt more hopeless because 1. Too old for the age group it's focused on. 2. I'm asian. 3. The matches I do get, no one replies back because obviously I'm just 1 out of thousands of messages they get.

Might be single forever

I mean... seeing life in such a pessimistic and negative way takes away all the attraction you can have. Generally, people dont like to be around people who are so negative and pessimistic about everything in life. You are a young boy with so much to live yet.

If you just came out from a 5 years of relationship maybe it's time to work on yourself first before jumping into another relationship.
If having a relationship is your whole life purpose, it's time to see what's going on there.

Change that way to thinking, be a more positive person, dont rush things and I promise you that you luck will change.


Law attention.

Mother Tamm gotten really mature after all these years. Where have you been training yourself ? Meditation under a waterfall ?

toilet.

Never... never give up friends for anyone. If she gets jealous over friends, she’ll be jealous over anything. Also, if you feel doomed at 28 I am one foot in the grave doomed. I think you run into the same situation we all do, just taking a chance to ask. We all get more no’s than yes, but that’s life in general. Good luck to you!

I met my gf through mutual friends. But if you don't have trustworthy friends that can hook you up to a single girl - maybe be more adventurous. I was at muttonbird island a few days ago and realised that the fear response can be completely stupid or outdated.

If you are traveling and see a random girl on the street who looks approachable. What's the harm of talking to her and asking her out? That fear you feel is outdated and just an impractical instinct created back when our ancestors were small time villagers and everyone knew each other. And rejection by one girl, meant that all the other girls would hear about it and feel less of you. But in today's world, there's heaps of strangers who you probably won't meet again and nobody will really remember or know how you got rejected by a random stranger. So if you want to look for love, be more adventurous and learn to be tolerant to rejection. I reckon you'll get rejected by a majority of strange girls out there but a minority (up to 1 third and around your dating weight class) will probably say yes to a date if you know how to talk to them (in real world) and be your charming self.

No homo, but you're decent looking to me and pretty sure you'll find a girl that way but don't rely on those dating sites and apps for the reasons that you explained yourself. How many new people do you actually meet in your everyday life? How many of them do you also regularly talk to? If you usually see only the same people every week and wonder why you are not meeting anyone new then you should really think about improving your active social life. And don't act all desperate for a gf as neediness is never ever attractive.

And like Tam said, if you are just leaving a 5 year relationship. Maybe work on yourself and get your head and affairs screwed on right before prowling for your next relationship, and take your single life/break as a blessing and opportunity for now? As cliche as it sounds, women do respect a guy with a stable job, takes care of his appearance, has sufficiently decent friends and is NOT desperate for a girl to like him.And how can you expect a girl to like you for long term relations if you can't love and respect yourself first? And full of self-loathing, desperation, and on the rebound as you seem to be currently at.

zen wrote:

Is that water or ?

zen wrote: Mother Tamm gotten really mature after all these years. Where have you been training yourself ? Meditation under a waterfall ?

Lol ben XD I just found out that there are options to live a better life.

Everything starts with us. If you are not ok with you, life will never give you something that you aren't ready to handle.

It gives you back what you are.