Catfished for 4 years

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booster wrote: Ouch man sorry to hear. Usually if a girl doesn't send pics or wants to video chat in first week, just move on hahah. Nobody got time to risk for that. Usually thats why I won't answer somebody, if they have no profile sorry not talking to you. I kinda want to see who I am talking to.

sorry, boo. i swear i didnt block you.

JShek wrote: I just told her two days ago that I'm willing to wait until next year February when she said, I'm aim thanksgiving. Yeah right. She said that almost every single month, wait for next month. And then just right before the day she suggested herself, she would
A. Either radio silent me for a week or two and then tell me this happened blah blah or
B. Started to say I am attacking her when I am simply letting her know that she's breaking her own words.

Most classic examples:

One time she said she'd drive to meet me and then ended up going to Helena, Montana.

Two which is last year before Covid, she'd gone to Las Vegas to attend a wedding. I told her I can be there in 4 hours. She then said, I don't like Las Vegas hotel, let's not meet. Yo. I drove like over half way there. What the heck?
She would not even meet me with short distance drive like that. It's not even that far for me I used to drive that twice a month from LA. She would attend her friend's wedding but she would not meet me, a person who's waited for her for 4 years?

Yet another time, she said she asked her assistant to plan and purchased a ticket. I asked for proof of itinerary. No reply. I thought oh yeah, if you asked someone you pay to do it, that person surely would do it. Nope, didn't happen. Should the person be fired?

Indicators either she's already married with children, or she's just looking around, or she's very insecure and depressed. I don't have no idea as when I started probing, she would not reply AT ALL on all of these questions. She would just say, my parents are sick. I need to take care of them. She has a sister who can take care of them for a week, yeah? I am not asking much yo. So she's can attend a wedding 4 hours away but she can't wait another 2 hours for someone waited for her for years.

Thoughts, anyone?

Haha just move on. That is a true catfish haha. But technically if u don't know what she looks like would it truly be catfishing O.o but ya if she doesn't want to meet in 4 years just move on haha. I mean really 4 years to not have a picture or video chat seems messed up haha

San_Ichiban wrote:

booster wrote: Ouch man sorry to hear. Usually if a girl doesn't send pics or wants to video chat in first week, just move on hahah. Nobody got time to risk for that. Usually thats why I won't answer somebody, if they have no profile sorry not talking to you. I kinda want to see who I am talking to.

sorry, boo. i swear i didnt block you.

Its ok you ghosted me its different

Also told me not to get on this site because she has "friends" and her security team is also here. That's why I never came up here and she said I am still up here. I did twice just to probe and check what is going on. One time I openly came up here to check, too. Well, too bad. so sad.

I don't see what is her problem at all. Everything she told me could either be true or a lie because it is just too elusive. She never once seriously confide in me or show her true self. And every time we are about to meet, which is the date she suggested, always turned out coincidentally something happened. She has sent me plenty of "online-downloaded" photos and said this is what I look like. Jeez Please. Seriously? Can you be MORE genuine? I can sent tens of thousands of photos and say that this person looks like me. But It is NOT me. That's just plain wrong and weird. I have never ever encountered a person like this.

You know, after 4 years, anyone should at least trust a person for sending ONE lousy photo or cam up at least one time. And one time I freaking asked for cam for like 10 minutes at 11 O'clock at night recently and she said there is something very wrong, I have people here, she said.

Now I am questioning, if everyone around her KNOWS my existence, What is wrong to announce to people around her, I'm gonna cam up with my bf online real quick, I'm going to the bathroom. blah blah and walk away for a few minutes. There is absolutely nothing wrong with that.

All the indication tells me she's catfish. Nothing she does about sending photos and webcam and promise to meet makes ANY sort of common sense. She is 100% a catfish or she's real person but just don't want to do it with me. Yet, she still keep on telling me she loves me and want to do all of that with me. That's the most confusing stuff ever to drag on this long time.

I have provided solutions to her problems but she refused to do it. So she's a catfish. And she also hated the term. Ha, I'm sure she's on here somewhere reading this. She even threatened to sue me if I reveal her name here. Really? You gonna sue me? I should sue you instead!

E X C U S E M I ?

Well, no one need to threatened anyone here.


No matter what happened you can't reveal her name in forums.

That's a personal problem that should stay between you two.


But I'm sorry to hear it happened to you :/

Ghosting is different for sure. The thing is, I always had to initiate something and tell her something and then she responds to my message. If I don't say anything, she doesn't say anything. I told her hey, a relationship is a two-way street. I can't be always initiate something. And then recently I just didn't say nothing for two weeks, and then she say, hey are you ok? and then I responded yeah I'm always okay except I asked to meet/photo/cam but you didn't do any of these things. What does sending photo and webcam has to do with her parents' sickness is beyond me. It has NOTHING to do with anything. I supported her mentally when she's seemed down but seriously. I felt like I'm just her mental-boost tool.

I told her I'm about to move on seriously because she's just not doing everything she told me she would do. I'm simply asking for a photo/webcam session and meet up. I just don't see how hard it is for a person to do that. What is wrong with this person. She's a person alright, but what is wrong with this person's psychological state is my question.

I'm sure she's probably going with someone now, Kept me waiting for 4 years, really. what the heck? She did do that. She told me straight up she met someone one time. And three times she told me oh this guy in this restaurant, that guy in the hospital, her co-worker. blah blah. Yeah. All the while I'm just waiting for a photo/a cam. Really? And she said I'm aggressive and possibly dangerous. Give me a break. What can I do 4000mils from you. If I'm aggressive, yet I wait for you patiently this long time? really? She always turn it around and blame me. Classic narcissist.

Ha. To tell the truth. She could be any of you right now. I don't know who is who anymore. This is sickening.