What Do You Look For In A Guy/Girl And What Puts You Off?

jcl wrote:

Yohanus wrote:

jcl wrote: I'm looking for someone who I'd be happy to see in the morning even though we were fighting the night before. And on that end, I'm looking for someone who does just that, "fight" for the continuation of the relationship. Of course, it doesn't make sense to fight for something that you don't care about. I'm saying that I'm looking for someone I care so much about that I'd fight for them and that they'd do the same. You know how you'd murder for your best friends (or is that just me?)? So yeah, basically I'm looking for a best friend who I'd also like to bone.

What puts me off is someone who relies on their s/o too much. Yes, relationships are about helping each other whenever possible, but every time I see guys or girls who are basically leeching on their s/o, I can't help but feel upset for the both of them.

You mean you would die for your friends? Lol or do you actually mean murder?? Lmao

I mean more of: in the theoretical situation where your best friend (not just a friend) is killed by someone, you'd have murderous intent towards their killer. It's not he murder that's the focal point, it's the reason behind the intent. You cared for them so much that their loss means that much to you.

Not sure why it's that hard for you to abstract from that, instead of taking it literally.

lol brah i was kidding omg

jcl wrote: I'm looking for someone who I'd be happy to see in the morning even though we were fighting the night before. And on that end, I'm looking for someone who does just that, "fight" for the continuation of the relationship. Of course, it doesn't make sense to fight for something that you don't care about. I'm saying that I'm looking for someone I care so much about that I'd fight for them and that they'd do the same. You know how you'd murder for your best friends (or is that just me?)? So yeah, basically I'm looking for a best friend who I'd also like to bone.

What puts me off is someone who relies on their s/o too much. Yes, relationships are about helping each other whenever possible, but every time I see guys or girls who are basically leeching on their s/o, I can't help but feel upset for the both of them.

I totally agree with you.
This is what I'm looking for as well.

Trust. The important thing is to always be yourself, be open and honest. Because when you pretend to be someone you're not the relationship will not work. When that person finally gets to know you and finds out who you really are, maybe it's not what he or she was looking for. So, it's always important to be honest from the beginning and not pretend to be someone you're not to please someone else.

personality, inner values, mindset, overall point of presence.

What puts me off? obviousness, shallowness and her viewpoint that things are a no-brainer without put some effort on her own.

Some pros:
Kindness, compassion, empathy, intelligence, honesty, creativity, curiosity, ambition, and a fantastic sense of humour. An appreciation of delicious food.

Some cons:
Arrogance, lying, disinterest.

AshsOtherEvilTwin wrote: Some pros:
Kindness, compassion, empathy, intelligence, honesty, creativity, curiosity, ambition, and a fantastic sense of humour. An appreciation of delicious food.

Some cons:
Arrogance, lying, disinterest.

So me hahahhahahah

booster wrote:

AshsOtherEvilTwin wrote: Some pros:
Kindness, compassion, empathy, intelligence, honesty, creativity, curiosity, ambition, and a fantastic sense of humour. An appreciation of delicious food.

Some cons:
Arrogance, lying, disinterest.

So me hahahhahahah

Ahahahah

I like it when a man is nice,interesting to talk to, and when his values and beliefs match mine.Looks fade and they can sometimes be decieving.
Note:When I say beliefs I don't mean as in religion.I am an atheist.

I want a best friend, someone who is loyal and speaks their mind, so someone who isn’t loyal and plays mind games is a turn off...also anyone who is rude to wait staff/ service staff lol just be a nice hooman. I think I’m gonna be single forever but you now what ill just buy 10 pets and live in a seaside cottage and watch Netflix/ HBO in the mornings while drinking tea and working from home while getting a tan so I can have a dark cinnamon complexion:)

i think... someone who is understanding... is very important and mentally mature in a sense that they are caring when it comes to others' feelings... and doesn't give up the relationship so easily.