What to expect while dating a Chinese guy.

Hello I currently need help! I'm in a new relationship with a guy who is Chinese. He is absolutely amazing but I have some worries. He's very structured with his culture (which isn't a bad thing) Somethings I'm currently concerned about was that his parents are VERY strict and traditional. I'm worried that they wont accept me (a younger, caucasian, girl who isn't the "ideal wife material") and with them not accepting me I'm scared he might end things between us with the thought not wanting to disobey his parents wishes. Aswell I had my therapist tell me not to be too futuristic with him due to his culture. I'm not sure what that means and that quite honestly makes me scared of what our relationship could lead too. The guy I'm with already told me he never wants to get married which hurt me due to my goal of getting married one day. I'm not sure if that a cultural thing or just preference. But these are things I had no idea about and now im wondering if there is anything else I should AND shouldn't except while dateing a Chinese guy. Good and bad. Thank you in advanced!

A Chinese guy that doesnt want to get married? Then he is definitely not "structured with his culture", as you say. Something is off here lmao.

And what do you mean by not ideal wife material?

I think a true a man should never let their parents dictate who they should be with. I am a chinese and I have always heard about white girls complaining their exes abandoned the relationships because of their parents. I mean if he is not mature and man enough to make his own decisions and stand up to what he thinks is right then you have no reasons to be with him. It is not a cultural thing, it is just MAMA BOIIII. Talk to your bf and let him know. If he cannot be a man then move on. short term struggle is better than long term

End well this will not. If you want him to marry you, then you need to change yourself to marriage material. This doesn't just apply to Chinese men, "wife material" is across all cultures. Well, unless you want a soy boy....

Depends on the person. Everybody grows up differently and has different life experiences. Just gotta be up front about it and ask. Communication is key to a relationship. My mom wanted me to date Chinese girls all my life and everytime I broke up my mom was like I find you nice Chinese girl and then I would bring back a Caucasian girl but now she accepts that fact and wants me to be happy. So it changes depending on person. If you both really love each other then you work it out and adapt.

First I'm going say this....(coming from a married woman) If you want to get married and he doesn't, LEAVE!! That's usually one of the first conversations you have while dating; and if you two don't have similar or the same goals for the relationship, save yourself and find someone else that will not keep you around for 10+ years to get wifey benefits without the ring...

Number 2: I've dated chinese men as well, and if he really and truly loves you, his parents words will mean little nothing and they'll usually fight for you. So if they don't accept you, you probably saved yourself and it's a blessing in disguise from mama's boy

Honestly don't know whether people here are being serious with their posts lately..

OP, there's a lot of fear you have in your post. Maybe you'll need to work on that before you can be in a serious, committed rs.
The guy you're dating right now isn't "other Chinese guys", so no one can tell you what to expect. There's no need to generalise, innit.
Maybe acquiring some cultural awareness might help you. If someone tells you they don't want to get married, why stick around and try changing their mind? Unless you like being hurt, then that's a different story.

Also, it's dating*.

Blackrabbit wrote: If you want to get married and he doesn't, LEAVE!!

This. So much this.

If there are insecurity and doubts, a ringer on your finger won't fix the problems. I don't understand why the bigger problem is "he doesn't want to ger married" when clearly you didn't /can't talk with him about other "smaller" questions....

First find people that have created long-term relationships and have been married.
They have good contact with their two parents, whom are still living under the same roof.
They will teach oneself many things.

Marriage meaning "mare" - sea + "iage" - to carry

Bearing, developing and teaching the child to adult takes about 20 years with two parents present
before the child becomes financial independent. The presence of the two parents create a mental and an emotional stability for the child.

The question is:
can a man and a woman be ready to come together as husband and wife,
to give birth and raise and financial support a child for 20 years or more?

The answer will be known in the experience in working with children and loving them for both man and woman.

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Good luck and may the divine be present in ones endeavors 🙏🕉