What do you think about long distance relationships?

There was a girl i met online. We got close and got in a relationship but after 2 years later, i found that she already had a boyfriend in her country. I was so shocked and afraid of trying again. Do you guys think that long distance relationship works?

Koreanboii wrote: There was a girl i met online. We got close and got in a relationship but after 2 years later, i found that she already had a boyfriend in her country. I was so shocked and afraid of trying again. Do you guys think that long distance relationship works?

I think it really depends on the person and your connection with them, sorry to say but if you found out she had a bf randomly she more then likely was showing you signs that the relationship wasn't working. I think when it becomes a little over a year of dating without physical contact or talks of actual concrete plans,its time to maybe reevaluate the relationship and possibly walk away. Your experience shouldn't scare you, learn from it because there's no guarantee that this chick would've stayed faithful to you if you were both in the same country. My experience with a long distance relationship has been okay I have no complaints I believe long distance relationship can work as long as both parties know what they want from each other and are willing to put in the effort to maintain a healthy relationship with the ultimate goal of physically being together ( like living or marriage maybe).

I feel like you making up story and waiting for someone to jump into . Because you're grownup man History/ future

Hey!! Stop being mean, if he wants to make up stories or not for entertainment let him, you don't know his life Benny.

First, I'm sorry you had to go through that OP, that's such a low thing to do. I hope you dare to try again and find a better girl the next time around.

Second, personally I have to say that I, in a way, prefer long distance. It's not something that works for everyone of course, and I think the most common issues I've seen couples having is that either one doesn't view lrd as something as serious as if their partner lived close by, or one or neither of the parts are mature enough to be able to actually talk and work through issues that might arise. I still definitely think it can work, though I also believe it's important that you actually meet somewhat regularly if possible.

I won't waste 2 years of my life for online dating,you see in Korea he is exactly 2 years older than his current age

Shit, OP, that sounds like a rough time. Can't tell from just your short post but it seems like she either didn't take the relationship seriously or has some serious attention seeking tendencies (not enough from her boyfriend). You'll find better, eventually.

As others have said in this thread already, it takes two to make it work.

I think the most important factor is how seriously both sides take the relationship. Obviously the more serious they are, the more effort they will put into communicating, making time for each other, etc. Ultimately, though, we are human beings that crave physical presence. To that end, lots of thinking should be put to when to meet up. If either party is flaky on meeting up, that's probably a red flag, anyway.

Can't you ppl tell the difference between reality and fantasy world ?

Benny wrote: Can't you ppl tell the difference between reality and fantasy world ?

To answer your question, yes.

Can you? Do you understand object permanence?

No im pretty stupid,that's why I act